Write on Islamic teachings on parent-child relationship

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Islam places great emphasis on the mutual rights and duties between parents and children, linking kindness to parents with the worship of Allah.

Duties of children towards parents

1. Obedience and respect: children must obey their parents in all that is lawful. Allah says: "Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, and be good to parents" (Q4:36).
2. Kindness and gentleness: they must not say to them a word of contempt (uff) nor rebuke them, but address them honourably (Q17:23).
3. Care and maintenance: children should support and care for their parents, especially in old age.
4. Prayer for them: to pray for their mercy: "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small" (Q17:24).
5. Honouring them after death: by fulfilling their promises, giving charity on their behalf, and keeping ties with their friends and relations.

Duties of parents towards children

1. Good upbringing and moral training: to raise them upon faith, good character and discipline.
2. Islamic education: to teach them the Qur’an, worship and the duties of Islam.
3. Maintenance and provision: to feed, clothe, shelter and protect them from lawful means.
4. Justice and equality: to treat all children fairly, without favouritism.
5. A good name and lawful sustenance: to give them a good name and feed them from lawful earnings.
6. Love, mercy and protection: to show them affection and safeguard their welfare.

The Prophet (S.A.W.) said that Paradise lies at the feet of the mother, and that pleasing one's parents is a means of pleasing Allah. This mutual bond builds a strong, harmonious family and society.