Conflict is a driving force in Buchi Emecheta's The Joys of Motherhood, which traces the hard life of Nnu Ego in colonial Lagos and Ibuza. The novel is rich in clashes, personal, domestic and social, and three instances stand out.
1. The conflict between tradition and change (village versus city). Much of Nnu Ego's suffering springs from the clash between the traditional Igbo values she was raised with and the harsh realities of colonial Lagos. In Ibuza, motherhood, farming and communal support give a woman worth and security. In the city, money rules, husbands earn wages washing white men's clothes, and the old certainties fail. Nnu Ego clings to the belief that many children guarantee honour and care in old age, only to find that urban poverty and westernisation betray that expectation. This tension between inherited ideals and modern conditions underlies her whole tragedy.
2. The conflict between Nnu Ego and Nnaife (marital conflict). Nnu Ego's marriage to Nnaife is a source of continual friction. She is at first repelled by him, a soft, plump laundryman utterly unlike her ideal of a strong Ibuza man, and she resents his failure to provide. Their quarrels over money, over his taking a second wife, Adaku, and over the raising of the children expose the strains of polygamy and poverty. The rivalry between the co-wives Nnu Ego and Adaku adds a further domestic conflict within the same household.
3. The inner conflict of Nnu Ego over motherhood. Perhaps the deepest conflict is within Nnu Ego herself. She sacrifices everything, her comfort, her health, even her sense of self, for her children, believing they are her "joy" and her future security. Yet she is torn between this devotion and the growing realisation that her sacrifices go unrewarded: her sons pursue their own lives, one going abroad, and she dies alone by the roadside. The bitter gap between the promised "joys" of motherhood and its actual loneliness is the novel's central, ironic conflict.
Conclusion. Through these conflicts, tradition against modernity, wife against husband and co-wife, and the mother against her own thwarted hopes, Emecheta exposes the burdens placed on women and questions the very ideal of motherhood that the title ironically celebrates.