Irony is one of Buchi Emecheta's chief tools in The Joys of Motherhood. The very title is ironic, and throughout the novel Emecheta uses situational, verbal and dramatic irony to expose the painful gap between the ideals of motherhood in Igbo society and the harsh realities a woman like Nnu Ego actually endures.
The irony of the title. The most pervasive irony is in the title itself. The Joys of Motherhood leads the reader to expect a celebration of maternal happiness, yet Nnu Ego's experience of motherhood is dominated by suffering, sacrifice, poverty and neglect. She toils and starves herself to raise her children, only to be abandoned in her old age. The promised joys turn out to be sorrows, and the title becomes a bitter comment on the false rewards society dangles before women.
The irony of Nnu Ego's fertility and barrenness. There is deep irony in Nnu Ego's reproductive history. In her first marriage to Amatokwu she is cast off as barren and worthless because she bears no child, which nearly destroys her. Yet in Lagos, married to Nnaife, she becomes the mother of many children, and this very fruitfulness brings not ease but greater hardship, as she struggles to feed and educate them in poverty. Whether barren or fertile, she suffers, which exposes the impossible expectations placed on women.
The irony of children as investment. Nnu Ego believes, as her society teaches, that children, especially sons, are a mother's security and reward. She sacrifices everything for her son Oshia's education, trusting he will care for her in old age. Ironically, the educated children scatter and neglect her; Oshia goes abroad and does not return in time, and she dies alone by the roadside, unattended by the very children for whom she gave her life. Her lifelong investment yields nothing.
The irony of her death and posthumous honour. The final irony is that Nnu Ego, who longed all her life for love and recognition, dies lonely and unmourned, yet is honoured with a costly funeral and even made into a shrine by her children. She is denied peace and comfort in life but glorified in death, and the tradition holds that her spirit is reluctant to grant fertility to others, a last bitter twist on the idea of the joyful mother.
Conclusion. Through the ironic title, the reversal of barrenness and fertility, the betrayal of the mother's investment in her children, and the emptiness of posthumous honour, Emecheta uses irony to dismantle the romantic ideal of motherhood and to protest the sacrifices unjustly demanded of women in a changing society.